After I left my 24-year marriage, I moved to Mexico City on a whim
The break came suddenly. After 24 years together, my husband told me he wanted to explore his bisexual side.
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The leftovers
When I was about six years old, my grandmother made me a handcrafted cloth doll.
How a Little Yellow Bus Came to the Rescue of a Persecuted Schoolboy
It is just a simple metal-and-plastic toy, but don’t let that fool you.
My First Time
As I was scanning my photos into the computer, I found this one - the only one - of Steve, the first guy I had sex with. I don't remember Steve's last name; he only lived in town for a few short months and moved before he made the yearbook.
Fridamania: Frida Kahlo's biggest year yet
Kahlo’s impact has reached global proportions, and this summer, “Fridamania” proves her allure is stronger than ever.
Sophie B. Hawkins almost killed her career by coming out in the 90s. She didn't let it stop her.
Sophie B. Hawkins doesn’t watch the news. Who can blame her?
This is my dirty secret
AI bots are about to out me
Mexico City's only soul food restaurant serves a taste of home for ex-pats & LGBTQ+ people
Tiara Darnell never imagined owning a restaurant. For her, food has always been an experience and a feeling, not a business.
So how did she end up owning and operating Blaxicocina, Mexico City’s only soul food restaurant? We sat down with her one warm evening to find out.
So how did she end up owning and operating Blaxicocina, Mexico City’s only soul food restaurant? We sat down with her one warm evening to find out.
Pablo Vittar talks travel, staying fit, and her new adidas Pride collection
In a lively conversation with the ever-glamorous Pabllo Vittar, the globally renowned Brazilian drag queen and pop star, we delved into the inspiration behind her new Pride collection for adidas, her passion for travel, and how she stays fit on the go.
The Mac & Cheese Method is why politics keeps getting worse
Politics runs on a communications trick that looks a lot like the grocery store aisle. I call it the Mac and Cheese Method.
What's it like to vacation in a place most people can't find on a map?
I’ve always been fascinated by Curacao. I wanted to go someplace most people would have to ask, “Where is that?”
Jared Polis has a message for making America inclusive for everyone: Vote
In 2008, after a heated, history-making primary battle against Hillary Clinton, Barack Obama secured the Democratic nomination for president. But in Colorado, congressional candidate Jared Polis also became a game-changer.
The political magic trick most Americans never notice
What if I told you something called the Wizard’s Rules could provide you with one of the clearest explanations of how political power works?
Special Snowflake Syndrome is ruining the LGBTQ movement
Our movement has become martyrs without a cause. Instead of viewing the world as a place that needs fixing, the new breed of activist only sees it as broken.
The slow disappearing act of turning 50
I’ve been unemployed long enough now that I’ve stopped pretending it’s a “break.”
He owns the Abbey, a large part of Fire Island, and a gay hotel chain. So who is Tristan Schukraft?
Tristan Schukraft has recently purchased several LGBTQ+ landmark cultural fixtures. And he owns Mistr, the company that discreetly provides PrEP to LGBTQ+ people nationwide via mail order.
The iconic Los Angeles bar, The Abbey, is his. He purchased a substantial portion of the commercial space on Fire Island. And he launched Tryst, a hotel chain aimed at queer travelers.
The iconic Los Angeles bar, The Abbey, is his. He purchased a substantial portion of the commercial space on Fire Island. And he launched Tryst, a hotel chain aimed at queer travelers.
You don't deserve to win
You don’t think of yourself as complicit. You consider yourself informed, engaged, and morally alert. That confidence is exactly where your vulnerability lies.
This small Mexican state is perfect for gay lovers
While Cancún, Puerto Vallarta, and Mexico City receive the most attention south of the border, the Pacific state of Nayarit is quickly pushing its way to the front. They’ve invested heavily in tourism, and tourists flock to the area, with LGBTQ+ people in the vanguard.
Growing older without growing quiet
I used to be louder.At eighteen, I helped start an ACT UP chapter in rural Indiana and protested across the country. In my twenties, I organized rallies and led protests throughout the state. At thirty-two, I launched a radical queer blog that angered people daily, and I did not worry about who it offended.
Strike gold at Puerto Rico's hottest oceanfront luxury resort: Dorado Beach
Sometimes you have to treat yourself.
And if you’re looking for a luxurious tropical vacation without using your passport, the Dorado Beach resort, a Ritz-Carlton reserve outside of San Juan, Puerto Rico, is the perfect spot. Nestled against the Atlantic Ocean, the 50-acre retreat is situated on the former Rockafeller estate—and it shows.
And if you’re looking for a luxurious tropical vacation without using your passport, the Dorado Beach resort, a Ritz-Carlton reserve outside of San Juan, Puerto Rico, is the perfect spot. Nestled against the Atlantic Ocean, the 50-acre retreat is situated on the former Rockafeller estate—and it shows.
From high fashion to advocacy work, Myles Sexton is an icon to models
Myles Sexton is often compared to Jonathan van Ness, but unlike the problematic Queer Eye hair expert, Sexton is Canadian. They’re a nice person. It’s in their bones.
Here's how to spend 48 hours in Cartagena
It was a red-eye flight from Mexico City to Cartagena, with a quick layover in Bogota to rush through customs – and then the flight was delayed. The gay flight attendant matter-of-factly told me I wouldn’t be making the next flight out of Bogota, but they’d get me on the next flight an hour later.
Love wins on a mountaintop: Meet the first same-sex couple legally married in Santorini
In a landmark celebration of love and progress, Santorini Sky, the highest resort on the Greek island of Santorini, hosted the island’s first legal same-sex wedding. The ceremony marked a significant milestone following Greece’s legalization of same-sex marriage in February 2024.
I took my hoomans to a pet-friendly hotel for a romantic getaway. Here's how it went.
International Dog Day was this Monday, but I celebrated a little early.
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'Bury them in fruit jars.' A gay mass murder and the cover-up that followed
Flames shot through the crowded Up Stairs Lounge as bartender Buddy Rasmussen opened the front door to see who had been ringing the downstairs buzzer.
Some patrons saw the b...
Some patrons saw the b...
Stuck between two worlds, the tattoo studio is the only place this trans artist can live her truth
The services offered at the Inkspace Studio in New Delhi’s bustling Hauz Khas neighborhood are similar to those provided by other tattoo studios in the area. But the artist is unique. 27-year-old Bruna has two lives.
An introvert's guide to group travel
I step into the soaring hotel lobby, pasty white as a newly cast limb and sporting a straw fedora to protect my bald head from the Mexican sun. But no amount of sunscreen can shield me from the hundreds of queers descending upon Puerto Vallarta for a resort takeover. There’s one small problem, though. I’m not a people person.
Women make the best coffee. Here's how they are transforming the industry
Behind your morning cup of coffee, there lies an entire ecosystem filled with farmers, roasters, importers, distributors, baristas, shop owners, and marketers. And increasingly, it is made up of strong, tenacious women.
The secret gay neighborhood inside Tehran
Muhammad often tells his conservative parents he’s going out to smoke and take a walk. While they are not happy about his smoking habits, they are much more accepting of their son inhaling nicotine than what he really does.
This revolutionary gay bookstore was held together by "all the wiretaps the FBI ran through it"
In 1971, Deacon Maccubbin stumbled upon the quaint Oscar Wilde Bookshop on Mercer Street while visiting New York for Pride. Inside, he found no more than a few dozen titles on its racks, but he was amazed to discover a space devoted to gay literature.
The legend of the lesbian wolf girls at Vassar College
Vassar College has long had a reputation for being ahead of its time. There was even a running joke that students would arrive in late August and be “gay by May.”
My idiot husband dove into a school of barracuda in the Bahamas. I'm the one who almost died.
Years ago, Michael and I flew to the Bahamas for the destination wedding of one of my college friends. The plan was to attend the wedding, then stay a few more days to enjoy ourselves.